Lee Marsh

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  Throwing rice at wedding banned! J.W don't want you to have kids!

  by Witness 007 in

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  rutherford in his last book in 1942 ironic that it was called "children" told witnesses don't have any kids!!!

  armageddon is just afew years away.

  2022 many witnesses still live by this ideal...i have no kids at 50 years old because of this idiot!.

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  Many cities banned throwing rice or confetti at weddings due to environmental dangers to birds and the cleanup of confetti is a nightmare. It might depend on where you live but I suspect in NYC it was banned decades ago.
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  Personal Message on this forum

  by Michael76 in

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  hi all,.

  is there anyone who i can send a pm to?

  i have a question that i don't want to make public because it's a bit too personal.

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  Lee Marsh

  Most people here would tell you I am a pretty safe person to ask questions or confide in
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  Still here.

  by Lee Marsh in

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  the last 2 1/2 years have been extremely stressful.

  while the rest of the world was dealing with covid, i was also dealing with cancer.

  in fact it seems none of my doctors knew about it.

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  Thank you so much Aude

  as for that bathing suit— can’t say I ever saw that before but I know I never want to see it again
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  Still here.

  by Lee Marsh in

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  the last 2 1/2 years have been extremely stressful.

  while the rest of the world was dealing with covid, i was also dealing with cancer.

  in fact it seems none of my doctors knew about it.

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  Okay okay
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  Still here.

  by Lee Marsh in

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  the last 2 1/2 years have been extremely stressful.

  while the rest of the world was dealing with covid, i was also dealing with cancer.

  in fact it seems none of my doctors knew about it.

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  @ Beth Sarim I am so glad that I was able to help even in a little way.

  Thanks top so many of you who have wished me well and congrats. Thanks for even remembering me.

  Not dead yet @ ozziepost so save the legend status
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  Still here.

  by Lee Marsh in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  the last 2 1/2 years have been extremely stressful.

  while the rest of the world was dealing with covid, i was also dealing with cancer.

  in fact it seems none of my doctors knew about it.

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  Thank you everyone. I am still recovering from the pneumonia. The coughing gets worse at night. Which is why I am still up trying not to cough a lung out.

  I run out of energy frequently during the day so still need plenty of rest breaks. But each day is a wee bit better than the last
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  Still here.

  by Lee Marsh in

  1. jw
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  the last 2 1/2 years have been extremely stressful.

  while the rest of the world was dealing with covid, i was also dealing with cancer.

  in fact it seems none of my doctors knew about it.

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  The last 2 1/2 years have been extremely stressful. While the rest of the world was dealing with Covid, I was also dealing with cancer. My first surgery in April 2020, was one of the last surgeries before they closed all non-emergency surgeries due to the number of people entering the hospital due to Covid. In fact, my surgery was on the last day and only one of 3 that day.
  
  It was terrifying to go into the hospital knowing that catching covid was a possibility. I had no idea what to expect. And because of covid I had to go in alone and for the few days I was there, I was not allowed any visitors. But I got through it and came out of the hospital laughing and joking and pretending the world was fine. And although I knew cancer was there I ignored it. Years of trauma had taught me all about the powers of denial and I used every bit of denial I could to get through the next few months.
  
  Chemo side-effects were so bad they had to stop and start it several times and eventually gave up because of how hard it was on my body. The really weird thing though, was that I had been through so much physical pain and trauma in my life that the chemo didn't seem so bad to me. The doctors disagreed and it was stopped.
  
  Then, covid threw another wrench into my life. I did not get the normal follow-up tests, usually every three months. I didn't get a check up for a year. And got hammered again with cancer that had spread to my upper right lung. Denial wasn't going to get me through this. reality was hitting home hard. On the advice of a surgeon and my oncologist I had the upper right lobe of my lung removed as well as a section of the middle lobe. Like the first time they got the tumor out but they warned me that others too small for the tests to see might be lurking so I will continue with tests every 3 months.
  
  About 2 weeks later I was having problems breathing and had to return to the hospital. They kept me for observation over night. Before they released me the next morning a doctor asked me what they were going to do about the tumor in my lower left lung.
  
  I had no idea what she was talking about. No one had said anything. In fact it seems none of my doctors knew about it. They only reason this doctor found it was because someone had gone back and actually looked at the previous CT scan and compared it to the scan taken the night before. The previous person to write the report after he checked the scans had failed to mention the new tumor. No one knew. Thank goodness that I had gone to the hospital and someone had compared the 2 scans instead of simply relying on the report.
  
  But I was in shock. Denial wasn't going to work anymore. Angry that it had been missed. And scared that a third go-round might kill me. I became depressed. Didn't want to get up, or dressed. I had to force myself to do normal things. I underwent radiation this time, refusing to let them take out another piece of my lungs. I was having enough problems breathing. No guarantees with radiation though. Maybe it will work and maybe it won't. And if new ones pop up then keep burning my lungs.
  
  I forced myself back into my garden as a way to see something positive in my life. I had not seen my family in over 2 years. And at times felt like I would never seen them again before I died. The last few weeks have been very hard.
  
  Two weeks ago I got pneumonia. With a hospital swamped with patients, they gave me antibiotics and sent me home. Fine with me. I wasn't in the mood to sit with a lot of people who might add to my health problems. The meds helped and I am doing better every day.
  
  Today I spoke with my radiation oncologist. After 28 very long and challenging months I finally have a positive report.
  
  NO SIGN OF CANCER ANYWHERE.
  
  I am relieved. This is not to say there isn't anything lurking in there. Some tumors might be too small to appear on the tests. Future testing will find them if they are there.
  
  But right now, today there is no sign of cancer in my body.
  
  It will take a while for this to settle in. I have been living with it so long now that it seems it will never go away. And really that is how most cancer survivors think. It can always start up again.
  
  But for today there is no sign of cancer.
  
  Thank you to all of you who have supported me. Photos of chocolates, images to make me smile and cheer me up, and words of encouragement. They have all meant more than I can say.
  
  Thank you. I'm still here.

  
  
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  Interview with an Apostate: Template

  by Simon in

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  2. experiences

  here's the template of questions to use ready to copy / paste and complete.

  feel free to add suggestions for additional questions and to nominate people you'd like to read about (but not no one is obliged to do one).

  also, add your own story too!.

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  Chessa Manion: When A Victim Becomes The Perp

  by NonCoinCollector in

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  2. child-abuse

  this is a hard one for me to write and words can't describe my frustration in seeing this.

  from wbko news: .

  bowling green, ky. (wbko) - bowling green police have arrested two people on multiple charges following a rape.. police say the victim told them she was kidnapped, raped, and assaulted.. police also say the rape was recorded by a man named colton hogendorn, who was arrested after police found him on 25 chestnut street.. hogendorn is charged with rape first degree, kidnapping, strangulation, assault, sodomy, and video voyeurism.. police also arrested chessa manion, who was present during the events, and arrested and charged with complicity to the same charges.. both were taken to the warren county regional jail.. .

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  There are three very strong reasons why some previous victims become perpetrators. One is mentioned above.

  Just like all of us, victims can become under the influence of some pretty unhealthy people. Whether that is in a group or with an individual the controls are the same. Unless we learn what those are, we remain susceptable to the crazies around us everywhere.

  Think of it as switched addictions. We learn to sacrifice who we are for the rules of another person or group. What I read of the article was that she did not participate but was present. For all we know she could have been tired up and forced to watch. But even if she was being "forced" to watch she was present.

  While victims are being abused (as children) they learn to go to another place in their heads. They freeze because as a child they don't have a lot of choices. Fighting or running away are pretty much not going to happen. So they freeze. In that dissociative state they cannot think about what is happening. They think about anything else except being there. The more often they are abused the stronger the dissociation so they do what they are told and block out what is happening. Not the same as forgetting. Some do and others don't.

  As they get older dissociating becomes a way to deal with anything you don't like. Just space out and pretend whatever is happening isn't really happening at all. So in a situation like this it is possible for the person to stand there, perhaps follow simple instructions and really ignore what she is seeing. She becomes incapable of taking appropriate actions and protecting the new victims.
  

  There is another option and this one is frequent with male victims but rare with women but it does happen.

  Abusing another person is a way to get the power you didn't have as a child. Remember sexual assault on anyone is not about the sex. it is about power. The man clearing wanted power and was using someone else to get it. If he was also controlling Chessa he doubles the power he is stealing from others. If she is participating in any way then she too is trying to capture power from the victim and align herself with the male abuser. In cases where women become sexual abusers there is often other mental health issues stemming from previous abuse but possibly other issues as well.

  I would pretty much assume the male abuser was also a victim as a child. These are NOT excuses. They are possible explanations for behavior.
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  Changes In Canada

  by LetTheTruthBeKnown in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am surprised no one has mentioned what is going on in canada.. maybe they have but i missed it.

  so here are some of the facts as i know them.

  ontario only.. sault st. marie had their six congregations whittled down to two.

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  The Aylmer Assembly Hall is still being used. My neighbor goes to it. it just reopened after covid

  Heaven Sorry to read about your Dad